The PURE Guide to Consent

What is Consent? 

Consent at its most basic is an agreement to participate in an activity. We give and receive consent in many aspects of our lives each and every day—from “Can I have a fry?” to “Can I kiss you?” Despite what’s been written into many hetero romance movies, consent never comes from pressure. It’s freely given and genuine. Your boundaries are meant to be respected, not shapeshifted against your will.

Your space. Your boundaries.

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Trauma-informed Consent 

Saying no can be hard, especially for women or those who have experienced trauma. Maybe you feel pressured to please others and go against your own desires. That’s why talking openly and honestly about consent beyond a “yes” or “no” is a must. 

You don’t owe anyone your trauma history and no one owes you theirs. But it’s time to expand the consent convo! Be a little more trauma-informed by walking through potential triggers and safe words. This can make it easier to say no later if you change your mind (because yes, consent can be revoked!). Let your partner know they can always tell you if they want to stop doing something. This can create emotional safety, which helps people feel more comfortable saying “no.”
 

Understanding Consent on PURE Dating App 

Consent isn’t just something we remind you about. It’s built into how PURE App works.

• Almost no personal info required to get started. Reveal what you want, when you want.
• Chats disappear after 24 hours unless you’re both into it. No pressure to stay in a convo you’re not feeling.
• Explicit pics stay blurred until you decide to see them.
• Screenshots are blocked. Attempts trigger a warning.
• Photos self-destruct after viewing. Or not, your call.
• True Photos let you verify who’s behind the profile before you say yes to more.
• Blocking and reporting are always one tap away if someone crosses a line.

When chatting with someone on PURE, ask for their consent before you send media. Whether it’s a sexy voice note or a steamy photo, make sure your chat partner wants to see or hear whatever you wanna show them.
 

Consent on dates 

Taking it offline? When you meet your PURE date, listen for boundaries, and respect them. Wanna kiss them? Ask first. Read their body language too. Do they look relaxed, comfortable, or excited? Do they say “yes” with their words while their body says “no?” Pause. Reassure them that they don’t have to do anything they don’t want to. 

Feel uneasy yourself? Don’t hesitate to leave early. 

We've got your back before, during, and after:

Safety Signal lets you share your location and date’s photos with a trusted contact. Your match will know you’ve activated it. If that bothers them, that tells you something.

Post-date check-in asks if everything went well or if you felt unsafe. We act on it. It helps us keep the community safe.
 

Consent during sex

Consent should always be sexy. It’s the hottest form of dirty talk, after all. 

Instead of: "Can I take your shirt off?"

Try: "I’ve been dying to see you naked all night. Can I take this off?"

Listen for verbal “yeses” and “nos,” but don’t forget to read their body language too. It’s all about awareness – of self and others. Pay attention to how you’re feeling in your body and how your partner is reacting. Are they tensing underneath you? Are their eyes darting towards the door? If so, stop and check in.

Before things get hot, speak openly with your partner about boundaries, limits, and preferences. A little transparency can prevent a whole lot of misunderstanding. Safe words make things extra clear. 

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