How to Forget an Ex in 5 Tried-and-Tested Ways
Whether it’s you who decided to leave or someone dumped you, a breakup is always traumatic. Are you anticipating some "you’ll get over it" advice? You will, but take all the time that you need! When you’re ready, we collected the best advice for getting over a breakup to avoid a negative impact on your future love life.
Cut ties with your ex
We know, we know - that’s how every breakup advice article starts. Well, what you can do... You'll feel better faster if you stop seeing your ex and his or her friends, checking social media, and sending pointless texts. Think of it it is a treatment: rehabilitation frequently calls for a diet. As in, no checking on your ex under any circumstances.. Otherwise, there is a good chance that you’ll be soon checking in “The Heartbreak hotel”, if you know what we mean.
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Support yourself on all levels
And we mean all - physical, mental, and emotional. Seek out warmth and support, and surround yourself with understanding people. Alcohol will only make it worse, so try to avoid it and stay calm. Exercise, get a massage, get eight to nine hours of sleep, find a hobby, read mantras — do anything to break up the routine. You'll be surprised at how involved you become in taking care of yourself, so start even if you feel like you don't have the energy.
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Create daily and weekly routines
Planning helps get your head in order. A month in advance, make plans to meet up with friends; choose locations that will encourage you to make new friends. Find places you've wanted to visit for a while and make the trip. Future events serve as a motivating force for personal growth and self-care.
Schedule your day so that you have enough time for both important tasks and pleasures. You'll stop worrying because you’ll be busy doing great things.
Look for the benefits of breaking up
The fact that you split up hurts, yes. But there is good news. You now have more free time. Use it wisely! Invest in yourself with your time. Also, after a breakup, you can finally grasp the trauma and let it out by going through the pain. Pay close attention to your post-breakup behavior to prevent getting caught up in negative thoughts. Do you anticipate your partner coming back? Are you feeling sorry for yourself? Panicking? Even if it’s hard in the beginning, you must deal with what hurts - it will only make you stronger.
Go on a date
It's not necessary to jump on the first guy you meet to stop feeling bad about your ex. Take your time and aim to have a thoughtfully planned date with someone pleasant instead. And after all, having a date doesn't mean any promises. If it doesn't work out between you two, it will at least lead to a new bonding experience. Your choice to begin a new chapter of your life is what counts; Pure will take care of the rest!
Wondering how to start dating again? Read our piece here.
On the subject
- According to a study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology, most people can move on from an ex-partner in just three months;
- The best-selling author of "Life Goes On", Robin H.C., contends that it is impossible to judge a breakup with objectivity. There’s always more than one side to the story;
- Breakups frequently result in problems with our heart;
- There are more "I" and "we" pronouns used in speech in the year before a breakup, according to research from the University of Texas at Austin.